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Want to meet new people? Use these 3 words to introduce yourself to anyone.
Last Updated August 29th, 2017

So, I’m at an event, and someone came up to introduce themselves to me.

Random guy: “Hi, my name is…”

And then he shoved his business card in my mouth.


He pulled his hand out of his pocket, and thrust it towards my face… business card in hand.

I was annoyed.

“Is this guy serious?”

“Wow. Rude!”

But I really can’t blame him.

When you want to meet someone at an event… or in a coffee shop… “opening a conversation” can be awkward.

What do you say?

What do you do?

How do you introduce yourself without being “weird?”

And how do you continue the conversation?

Keep reading…

Conversation Skills: How to Introduce Yourself To Anyone With 3 “Magic Words”

So, if you want to meet new people, you need to “open the conversation.” I filmed a video to help.

But of course, there’s more to meeting new people than just opening the conversation.

You also need to be likable.


Conversation Skills: How to Make People Like You

So, I’m at the coffee shop, and this lady says, “Wow Derek! I’m impressed.”

It came out of no where.

We talk a fair amount. She’s maybe 10 or 15 years older than me. And she tells me about her work.

She talks about fun stuff she’s tried recently. It’s all pretty light-hearted.

“Why,” I asked?

“You never talk about what you do. I googled you. You’re kind of a big deal.”

I close my laptop. I pull out my phone and hold it in her direction.

“Hold on. Can you say more nice things about me for the microphone?”

She laughed.

“But seriously! You’re so humble,” she says.

“I know it looks like that, but I’m about to write about this on Facebook just because you gave me a bunch of compliments and I want the whole world to know how great I am.”

She thought I was kidding.

I was.

Sort of.

I said it to make her laugh.

But this is how it goes.

When I meet new people, I rarely talk about myself.


I make it all about the person I’m talking to.

What’s THEIR story?

How can I help them?

What excites them?

It’s simple…

You should always make your conversation about the person you’re talking to.

And that leads me to…

Don’t make it an interrogation. That’s weird, too.

And that leads me to the NUMBER ONE Most important tip for meeting new people…


I met a guy who launched a new company that’s about to start marketing this company to the world.
He spent about 10 minutes telling me about his company.

It was fine. I liked the company.

But he never actually asked me what I did.

It’s his loss.

He’s about to embark on an adventure where he tries to persuade people to buy his new product (and accompanying app).

I’m sure he’ll do fine. I’m sure he has a plan in place. But imagine if he just said, “Hey man, what do you do?”

I mean…

Word on the street is I may know a thing or two about how to market and sell things.

And this guy lost an opportunity to have a real conversation because he talked about himself the entire time.

Now I Pass It To You…

How do you introduce yourself to people?

How do you maintain a conversation?

Or better yet…

If you’re struggling with this, what can I help with? Let me know.

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3 comments Leave a comment

Hi Derrick
I need some understand on how To start à buiness and Im new at this is my fisrt time actually seeking information .
thank u


Hey Derek! …You don’t know me. I am new to your world of Social Triggers and loving the information thus far. I just wanted to say hello and tell you why I am here.

I am frustrated. I don’t know how to market. I always fall into ‘sales’ mode when trying to write up marketing campaigns. I have no idea how to approach businesses that I have never done business with but would like to do business with.

Case in point: I would love to find a couple of furniture stores, designed coffee shops, and office buildings to partner by offering professional branding portraits in exchange for permission to use for my other headshot clients that may be looking for something different than a real estate or lawyer portrait.

But, when I email, call, or message through social media I NEVER hear back.

How do you think this method you have shared with us today would work in written format?



That’s so cool. I did this about 3 hours ago before I got home and watched your video just now. I didn’t use your exact words “Hey! What’s up?” But I spoke directly to the barista fixing my special brew coffee . . . I think I only said one word “So? . . . ” with the clear energy that I was saying “so?” as a question to him . . . where he was at . . . what was going on with him. He looked up directly at me (there’d been no eye contact or energetic personal connection before) . . . he looks me in the eye and says back to me, with open interest, something along the lines of “so what’re you up to today?” I hadn’t had any agenda in my asking “So? . . .”, but now in response to his interest, I told him I’d been at an interesting meeting I’d been at all morning learning about a cost-share program for enhancing the “carbon-sequestration” ability of the soil on the ranch I am responsible for over seeing! Before this morning I’d never heard of “carbon-sequestration” or that it could help the environment, as well as improve our soil and the yield of our orchard!

This was not especially something unusual for me to connect out in public like that, but I hadn’t transferred to that skill to meeting new people at conferences or networking. Thank you for helping me “get” that I already have this skill, but had been making “networking” and “introducing myself” at conferences much more complicated. Your video help me get that it could be just as easy as my connection with the barista today! Thank you!

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