Comments on: How to Make People Like You In 5 Seconds Or Less… (No Gimmicks. No Tricks. Just 3 Quick Tips).

By: JOEL CRASTA

JOEL CRASTA — Wed, 05 Dec 2018 08:17:14 +0000

this was very helpful for me as I am also in the same situation of social akwardness and become anxious when someone talks to me.

Appreciate your content and waiting for your next helpful content.

By: cathy

cathy — Tue, 27 Jun 2017 13:17:36 +0000

This is so funny. It’s what people used to do all the time (in smaller towns): say hello to people while walking down the street. Chat to shop assistants, make friends with the person sitting next to you on the train or bus.

Now when I horrify my family and chat to the people in their swishy city lift (elevator), I can point them to this blog!

By: Michael

Michael — Sun, 18 Jun 2017 09:33:10 +0000

Hi Derek,
Love the article.I’m very shy especially when talking in public places.Will try some tips here.

By: Paulo Ribeiro

Paulo Ribeiro — Sun, 07 May 2017 16:11:02 +0000

Hi Derek,

your post is a life experience to us all, explaining how to start the networking thing as it should be without shortcuts.

outstanding post.

Kind regards,
Paulo

By: Ian

Ian — Tue, 25 Apr 2017 13:42:53 +0000

Fascinating.
Your article made me think a lot. I think a lot of us care far too much about what people think about us. I’m scared about talking to a stranger in the street because they might think I am a nutter.
The thing is, when you get down to it, we’re all either complete nutters or very boring. Depends on how you look at it.
I do think, there are cultural differences. You might be able to say to your barista at your coffee shop “Hey, I love your shirt” in the US. But here, in the UK, they’re likely to think you’re weird.
I got the shock of my life when this random person outside a supermarket in the US looked me straight in the eye and said “You have an awesome day!” I forgave him since he was an American and I was in America and I even loved the experience (once I got over the initial shock), but that would be freaky in the UK.
So, I think we need to season your advice depending on culture and our personality. We probably all need to get out of our comfy chairs though. And that’s what I intend to do after reading this article.

A few weeks ago, I was speaking at a big social media conference in the US. I really wanted to chat with the people in the audience before I went on, but I found myself going all shy. It was ridiculous. All those people had chosen to come to MY talk, but I couldn’t even go up and start a conversation. That needs to change!

Thanks again!

By: Irene

Irene — Sun, 23 Apr 2017 19:33:19 +0000

These are great. And amusing… I will have to try them!

By: Eddy Baller

Eddy Baller — Sun, 23 Apr 2017 02:29:29 +0000

Very similar to what I show clients. Pretty universal.

By: Janet

Janet — Sat, 22 Apr 2017 02:23:02 +0000

Um, maybe in New York you have to practice talking to strangers, but in the South we’re raised that way:) Try and get us to stop talking…..
I get to cheat by using my name tag; being in the pet world, it’s almost a hypnotic pull to women, who are 80% of my business.
This article flew by so fast, another of your skills, Derek, your dissemination of information. Loved the “ha, your friend ditched you”.

By: Charlie

Charlie — Fri, 21 Apr 2017 19:48:48 +0000

Great insights. Not everyone can pull it off but clearly, you can.

It occurs to me this is the exact technique Don Rickels used in his comedy. If you are too young to remember Rickles it would be worth your time to learn more about him. He was a master of the build-up then put-down for a laugh method.

Here is a video of him doing a roast of Ronald Regan where he uses this exact technique.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZblPwNLH6hg

Great post, Derek.

Thanks.

Charlie

By: Colleen

Colleen — Fri, 21 Apr 2017 19:30:18 +0000

Hey those are great stories. I’m pretty good at talking to “people who are paid….” and also complete strangers because I have no skin in the game. I have two questions: How much better does this work for men than for women (don’t kid yourself EVERYTHING works better for men because women are “supposed” to just be decorative and not speak to strangers) It all falls apart for me when I interact with people in a situation where I have skin in the game. It’s not like I talk people’s ear off or do anything heinous that I can remember later with “oh boy I really put my foot in it when I said whatever;” it’s just that people never seem to stick. Any ideas?