Comments on: “Help! I Have No Conversation Skills – And I’m Awkward When Talking To People”

By: Andrew

Andrew — Thu, 25 Jan 2018 21:48:34 +0000

I just feel throughout my life I have always been the reactor in a conversation and never the person that starts conversations and can actively approach and talk to people. I always let people talk to me and that never seems to happen to much. Just want to be able to be more social and not anxious about talking to people. Although I have had many good conversations, those past awkward conversations always come to the forefront and I never can give myself credit.

By: Ethan

Ethan — Fri, 12 Jan 2018 20:08:46 +0000

One time I was talking to a girl who I had confessed feelings to a day before and I asked her a question where I tried to be casual/playful and she gave a simple reply and I pressed and thought she had more to let on, but in my mind I felt shame because I didn’t feel like I was being nice, so I ended up just holding an “um” and telling her I can’t talk and that made things more awkward between us for a period of time.
One time I had a good conversation was with my best friend and we were hanging out and had a conversation about a hypothetical situation and what one should do, and I think a lot of the convoersations good qualities came from my comfortability around him since he was my best friend.

By: Sierra

Sierra — Mon, 11 Jul 2016 17:49:59 +0000

For bombing a conversation, this one actually happened recently at my new workplace. I was upstairs in the breakroom and one of my coworkers came upstairs to go on break, too. He asked me where I went to school and I replied, but the whole conversation felt very one-sided and I kept glancing back at my phone because although I didn’t want to seem antisocial, I could sense the conversation was going terribly and I just wanted it to end, even though I enjoyed talking to him at the same time.

As for acing a conversation, I’m not sure this counts because this was a conversation with a longtime, very close friend of mine. Nonetheless, a very close friend of mine and I went for coffee after not having seen each other in a long time and the conversation just hit the ground running and before we knew it, we had spent over two hours at our local Starbucks just chatting and catching up. I’m very awkward in conversations, but I felt very at ease and relaxed having that conversation. I just wish all my conversations went like that…

By: Joey

Joey — Thu, 05 May 2016 23:16:32 +0000

My husband and I started going out to dinner with his boss and his wife, nothing literally to talk about very awkward. I ask a question and she goes on and on boring. Oh and she doesn’t and me any. Husband likes to talk about work boring. What to do? In real life I would never hang out with them they are just to into themselves but they are very kind weird.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Thu, 28 Apr 2016 09:36:29 +0000

I followed this advice for years. But it’s left me as being someone who is talked too. I feel unable to talk for more than a few seconds before diverting the attention back to the other person.

But I don’t want that, I want a two way conversation where both parties are aware. Where both people contribute to the conversation. This requires awareness from both people to ask questions of the other person and their views which I’m good as. But 99% of people seem bad at. They’ll often talk for 10 minutes straight. I could have an opinion on something but there are no natural breaks that allow me to offer my opinion.

So this tactic I feel just hides the issue. Yes diverting the attention makes it easier but it doesn’t solve the real issue.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Sun, 24 Jan 2016 21:51:38 +0000

Conversation is not just words.. maybe go back a step.

Eye contact and smile works very well between men and women. Don’t run away when she locks eyes on you, but don’t look hurt that the eye contact ended. Go back to looking at her – if you are not having a conversation with a women with her eyes before you meet, then you’ve wasted one of the best parts of life. Check her out when her friends are watching her and she’s not looking so her friends tell her she was just checked out. Be relaxed about it. Don’t fear women they can’t hurt you. Keep good hygiene, hair cut and wear newer clothes. Be ambitious with intention to earn money and do something interesting in your life that she will find interesting. Make an effort to be humorous even if you fail a bunch of times. If she doesn’t laugh at your jokes maybe you are not right for each other. If you are going to date, try to find a women who wants the same things as you and can accept each others faults. Otherwise you will argue too much.

Don’t judge your historical love life with your current one. You can go for one spell to another.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Sun, 24 Jan 2016 21:33:38 +0000

The way to quit smoking is to be honest about why you smoke, and then desire and be a non-smoker. That sounds really obvious to many but when you have a serious addiction, part of your brain’s concious is overwhelmed by a voice that creates doubt. Attacking that part of your brain, or making up your mind, you can do anything.

I believe inhibitions and anxiety in social situations stem from the same part of the brain that reinforces addictions. It’s that voice of doubt that resists change. Therefore, convince yourself of your own desire to be someone who is social. Shut down the part of the brain that creates doubt and has historically taken control of you in these situations.

Being decisive when it makes sense to be decisive is a good quality and keeps the brain functioning normally.

By: Neil

Neil — Thu, 31 Dec 2015 05:31:59 +0000

Real name is neil, dont know why i used a fake name ted hah.

By: Ted

Ted — Thu, 31 Dec 2015 05:28:59 +0000

So ever since I decided to commute to school for my sophmore year, my social life has crumbled. I find myself constantly sitting in my room, not knowing what to do because my old friends are away at school. I dont know anyone really at school and am never there long enough to creat friendships because of the commute and work. This constannt struggle of being at home caused me to loose my conversation skills, to the point where I don’t even know how to talk to my family. Today, I went out with my best friend and he introduced me to some of his friends and I didnt know how to hande it. My main issue is that I havnt had a relationship since junior year in highschool, and im going to be a junior in college soon.. some please help me figure this out.
-Neil

By: Michael Douglas

Michael Douglas — Sun, 06 Jul 2014 23:33:20 +0000

In the last two days, I went to out some parties and I was the awkward guy there. I couldn’t make or start a decent conversation with anyone and I got frustrated with myself. I want to try talking about things I don’t normally talk about and I want to make people feel good while having a conversation with me and not uncomfortable. And also I had some interviews that didn’t go well because I sold myself short and basically had trouble talking to him in a way that would make him wish to hire me. I need help.