Some people HATE me…
…And some people LOVE me.
A few months ago, I spoke at a conference, and one guy wrote “I want to punch Derek in the face” on one of the anonymous speaker feedback surveys.
At that same conference, one woman wrote that she’d like to “marry me.”
Seriously…
…but I’m not surprised.
I don’t say this to brag, but over the last 18 months, I’ve given presentations all over the United States, and my blog grew from scratch to more than 70,000 combined subscribers. These reactions were inevitable.
But less about me, and more about you.
I’m bringing this up because one of my readers asked me “How do you deal with haters,” and I thought “GREAT question!”
As people, we can receive 100 compliments, and they feel great.
But sometimes we can’t resist focusing on the one hater…
…And that’s why I filmed this short 90 second video that walks you through how I deal with my haters.
With 2013 fast approaching, how do YOU plan on dealing with haters? Leave a comment.
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Wow, very interesting post Derek! I feel as if you aren’t making enemies, then you aren’t different enough, and when there’s so just so much noise online, the only way to get ANY traction is to be different.
Cheers, and great to meet you in person at BlueGlassX!
Same to you Jon.
And you’re right.
I rather have people who hate + love than people who just nothing me.
“The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference.”
~ Elie Wiesel: Nobel Prize for Peace
People only hate things that they feel are making a difference in this world. If you’re doing it right… you’re making a difference. Great reminder, as always Derek.
People hate all sorts of things.
For instance, I hate wooden chairs. I mean seriously, have you ever sat in a wooden chair? Does anybody think wooden chairs are actually comfortable?
Getting strong reactions from people does not mean one is making a difference or doing something important, only that one is getting strong reactions from people.
Yes, that’s true that a strong reaction doesn’t equal a positive contribution to the world. It’s not a two way street just as all robins are birds, but not all birds are robins.
So, you’re right, a strong reaction doesn’t automatically mean making a difference. At the same time, anyone perceived as making a difference will tend to get a strong reaction. Anyone perceived as not really affecting anything, rarely gets a strong reaction.
BTW I’m typing this from my wood chair right now. I love it because it’s hard enough, that it reminds me to get up and move regularly.
Just sayin’
Thanks so much. This came seconds after I got a really nasty complaint from a customer (my first, it was terrifying!). I really appreciate it. Perfect timing. Love your emails, keep ‘em coming.
Now you can just forward this video over to them.
You should put up a post showing a picture of your ban list, that’d be funny!
You know you made it when you’re getting haters, take it as a compliment!